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My goal is to help get you out of marriage pain and bring back joy to your marriage. This website has resources, books and videos that can help your marriage before it is too late. If you want to stop your marriage pain, please feel free to browse resources on this website.
This is how most pain in your marriage begins to happen.
Once the battle for control settles into a marriage and a power struggle begins, a destructive cycle is in play. This cycle can be broken, but it’s not easy. The more stress you have in your marriage and the more dysfunction you experienced in your childhood, the more intense the cycle.
The cycle starts with feelings of needing to control. As a person begins to act on those feelings, both members of the relationship experience negative feelings. Those feelings may be fear, anger, mistrust, jealousy, sadness, guilt, inadequacy, as well as others. Honesty and openness are replaced by mistrust and deceit. These feelings then lead to negative behaviors.
This in turn leads to negative judgments and the loss of intimacy,respect and respect. The final outcome, if these negative cycles continue, can be the loss of the relationship altogether.
Half of marriages end in divorce.
This is pretty shocking. But before many couples throw in the towel, they decide to try a marital separation, in the hopes that spending some time apart will bring them back together.
While separating can be a really good thing, it's a very difficult place to be emotionally.
Here are some tips for surviving marital separation:
Be kind -- or at least respectful -- to one another. When emotions run high, it's very easy to lob hurtful statements at each other, but if you're trying to decide to stay or go, being kind is a big deal.
Take all the time you need. Knowing that you're on the verge of divorce is a scary point to reach, so don't rush into a decision one way or another. Time can heal wounds and reminds of us of the bad times -- as well as the good -- so don't feel pressured to make up or break up until you've had a good long while to think about it.
Find Resources such as books, videos, workshops, or a therapist that can help you with your marriage pain.
Likewise, don't pressure your partner into making a decision just because you can't stand not to know. Just like you, your partner has to spend some time alone, discovering who he or she really is.
Be alone for awhile. Don't go running into someone else's arms -- even if it's a way to make yourself feel better. More than likely, your emotions will go haywire and you'll have a terrible time trying to sort through your real feelings. You've got to be on your own for a bit.
Lean on your close friends or family during this emotional time. It may be your natural inclination to keep it all to yourself, but a marriage separation is a burden too hard to carry alone. So tell people you're struggling, and how they can help. Be careful not to talk terribly about your spouse. You may make up so you don't want your friends and family to dislike your spouse forever.
Keep the kids out of it. Until your kids are old enough to understand what's going on between Mom and Dad, don't drag them into it -- hard as it may be. Just keep reassuring them that you and your partner love them no matter what.
Men, click here to find a powerful resources that can help save your marriage.
Women, click here to find a powerful resource that can help save your marriage.
Click here for other resources that can help your Marriage Pain
This is how most pain in your marriage begins to happen.
Once the battle for control settles into a marriage and a power struggle begins, a destructive cycle is in play. This cycle can be broken, but it’s not easy. The more stress you have in your marriage and the more dysfunction you experienced in your childhood, the more intense the cycle.
The cycle starts with feelings of needing to control. As a person begins to act on those feelings, both members of the relationship experience negative feelings. Those feelings may be fear, anger, mistrust, jealousy, sadness, guilt, inadequacy, as well as others. Honesty and openness are replaced by mistrust and deceit. These feelings then lead to negative behaviors.
This in turn leads to negative judgments and the loss of intimacy,respect and respect. The final outcome, if these negative cycles continue, can be the loss of the relationship altogether.
Half of marriages end in divorce.
This is pretty shocking. But before many couples throw in the towel, they decide to try a marital separation, in the hopes that spending some time apart will bring them back together.
While separating can be a really good thing, it's a very difficult place to be emotionally.
Here are some tips for surviving marital separation:
Be kind -- or at least respectful -- to one another. When emotions run high, it's very easy to lob hurtful statements at each other, but if you're trying to decide to stay or go, being kind is a big deal.
Take all the time you need. Knowing that you're on the verge of divorce is a scary point to reach, so don't rush into a decision one way or another. Time can heal wounds and reminds of us of the bad times -- as well as the good -- so don't feel pressured to make up or break up until you've had a good long while to think about it.
Find Resources such as books, videos, workshops, or a therapist that can help you with your marriage pain.
Likewise, don't pressure your partner into making a decision just because you can't stand not to know. Just like you, your partner has to spend some time alone, discovering who he or she really is.
Be alone for awhile. Don't go running into someone else's arms -- even if it's a way to make yourself feel better. More than likely, your emotions will go haywire and you'll have a terrible time trying to sort through your real feelings. You've got to be on your own for a bit.
Lean on your close friends or family during this emotional time. It may be your natural inclination to keep it all to yourself, but a marriage separation is a burden too hard to carry alone. So tell people you're struggling, and how they can help. Be careful not to talk terribly about your spouse. You may make up so you don't want your friends and family to dislike your spouse forever.
Keep the kids out of it. Until your kids are old enough to understand what's going on between Mom and Dad, don't drag them into it -- hard as it may be. Just keep reassuring them that you and your partner love them no matter what.
Men, click here to find a powerful resources that can help save your marriage.
Women, click here to find a powerful resource that can help save your marriage.
Click here for other resources that can help your Marriage Pain